

By Kim Voynar Voynar@moviecitynews.com
The Art of Dating by Geography
I’m fascinated by this Gothamist piece asking New Yorkers if they’d date outside their borough. Not so much by the piece itself, but by the general hilarity of the comments, particularly when some commenters get into the relative merits (or lack thereof) of Staten Island, and whether one lives IN Staten Island or ON Staten Island. Pressing issues.
Weighing the relative hotness of a potential date against the distance traveled (or number of trains you have to take) to get there?
I mean, yeah, sure, I guess. I wasn’t dating really when I lived there, so it wasn’t something that ever came up. But I get the geography of dating … when I was growing up in Oklahoma City, it was out of the norm for someone to date someone from a rival school, period, especially if it was a rival school within your district. Out-of-district was more acceptable, but even then it helped if you were dating someone a step up, or someone particularly hot. And North side and South side didn’t, as a general rule, mix or intermingle much socially.
Here in Seattle I don’t know that it’s so much an issue because our mass transit blows and everyone here either drives or rides bikes. My only really hard-core rules about dating, when I was engaged in that activity, were no douchebags … and no Longhorns. I dunno, this whole thing just feels like a low-budget indie film waiting to be made. Manhattan publicist decides she’s only dating guys who live in Manhattan, then falls in love with a poor boy from the Bronx, and somehow they have to overcome their geographic differences? No? Okay, maybe a Williamsburg hipster …
Do you make dating choices based on where someone lives?
While I think it’s a little bit absurd for New Yorkers to not want to date outside the boro (if you have a MTA pass it’s not like it’s going to cost anything extra), but living in New Brunswick, NJ that is an issue for me. Gas is expensive, and NJ Transit tickets (which rose 25% last year) add up. I always feel like a jerk voicing this though, as I know people around here who drive over an hour to see the people they’re dating.